Tim’s Blog

How to break the addiction of control

How to break the addiction of control I cringe every time I hear the word “control.” Of course, as any good non-conformist/independent thinker, I hate the idea of being controlled. And while I may lie to myself and say that I need to be the one in control, I only...

How to break the addiction of significance

How to break the addiction of significance Of the three most common causes of stress - the fear of failure, the fear of rejection, and the fear of risk - which one is your biggest trigger? For me, it’s the fear of rejection. Which makes it particularly tough to be...

How to break the addiction of success

How to break the addiction of success Are you addicted to success? In other words, is your confidence dependent on whether or not you are successful? And if you are a leader, is your team’s confidence dependent on whether or not they are successful – because you...

And now, some practical advice…

And now, some practical advice... Are you ready for some practical advice on how to eliminate the stress in your life? Because while I have been laying down a foundation for the “why” and the “what” of stress, it was all necessary to get to the “how” of eliminating...

Are you trying to satisfy your past or satisfy your future?

Are you trying to satisfy your past or satisfy your future? Are you the kind of person who makes New Year resolutions? I am. And I am not. I typically use the end of each year to slow down, reflect, and assess my life - end to end. If that annual reflection...

Stress is an addiction

Stress is an addiction In my last post, I ended with a question… Why would anyone shape their lives around pursuing something that would never be “enough?” Well, it’s a long story… Every one of us starts life with a fairly simple agenda – we want to live. When...

Why do we need more than we need?

Why do we need more than we need? My grandfather taught me a lesson many, many years ago: Why do you need more than you need? You can want more than you need, but why do you need more than you need? It’s a powerful question and it gets to the heart of something...

We all seem to have the same patterns…

We all seem to have the same patterns... In 2014, when my wife got cancer, I learned something about myself. And I didn’t like what I learned. I don’t handle stress very well. I mean, I thought I did. I thought that with a master’s degree in psychology, a lifetime...

Serve your way through stress…

Serve your way through stress... Let’s be realistic: stress is inevitable. And frankly, some of it can actually be good for us. But as I mentioned last week, there are six main responses to stress and only two of them are healthy: influence or adapt. What makes...